2020-10-12 Do you share too much online 你是 “分享控” 吗？

如今，在网络上有多种多样与人分享信息的方式，许多人被指责分享得太多！什么是 “分享过度”？你怎么判断自己是否分享得太多了呢？本文围绕人们是否在网络上过度分享展看讨论。

词汇：sharing information 共享信息

It’s good to share, right? Growing up as kids we are told to share our toys and not be selfish. We also live in an age where discussing our feelings is encouraged. But when does it all become too much? With new crazes trending all the time, such as dance challenges and wearing a pillow as a dress, the question is: when can sharing become oversharing on social media?

What is oversharing? The term has become associated with social media, but it isn’t exclusive to this platform. Imagine you head to a party and you meet someone. Within five minutes they have divulged intimate details about their life. While some of us may try to escape these people, according to marriage therapist Carolyn Cole, this form of oversharing could come from a strong desire to connect with someone. But how does this translate to social media?

Dr Christopher Hand, a lecturer in cyberpsychology, says the more details people disclose, the less sympathy we express when things go wrong. This could be due to a belief that we attract our own negative experiences the more we share them. It seems that sadfishing, the idea of searching for sympathy by oversharing, is generally perceived as negative rather than the cry for help it could actually be.

However, Dr Hand’s research also seems to suggest that the more we post on a platform, the more socially attractive we become – provided that the posts that we bang out are positive. Even back in 2015, Gwendolyn Seidman PhD, said that we should avoiding whining and being negative online. We should also steer clear of showing off, bragging or flexing, as it’s now known – especially about our love lives. It makes sense – if your date is going ‘that well’, would you really have time to share a photo with text?

So, how can you know if you are oversharing? Well, why not ask your friends in real life. They would probably be more than happy to tell you if your posts about your breakfast or your gripes about your lack of money really are too much.

词汇表

share 分享
craze 风行一时的东西，时尚
trend （一段时间内在社交媒体或网站上）被多次提及，流传
oversharing 过度分享
social media 社交媒体
platform 平台
divulge 泄露
intimate details 隐私
connect 与…建立良好关系
cyberpsychology 网络心理学
disclose 公开，透露
sympathy 同情心
sadfishing 博同情，“卖惨”
cry for help 大声求援，求助的表示
post （动词）发布（信息）
posts （名词）网站上公布的信息，帖子
bang out 匆匆发出
whining 抱怨，发牢骚
showing off 炫耀
bragging 吹嘘
flexing 显摆，炫耀
in real life 现实生活中

测验与练习

1. 阅读课文并回答问题。

1. What are ‘dance challenges’ and ‘pillow dresses’ examples of?

2. What might people who overshare at parties be trying to do?

3. According to Dr Hand, what is the downside of sharing too many details?

4. What happens when we share a lot of positive posts?

5. What should we avoid doing with our love lives?

2. 选择意思恰当的单词或词组来完成下列句子。

1. It can be hard to make a strong _______ with people at parties.

connected                      connection                      symptoms                 symptomatically

2. Stop _______! Nobody needs to hear about your ‘amazing’ love life!

flexing                            spill                                 divulged                    crazes

3. Ask your friends _______ if you want honest advice whether you overshare.

connect                          in real life                        bragging                   flexing

4. I’m about to tell you a secret. Do not _______ it to anyone.

divulge                           divulges                           divulging                   divulged  

5. Have you seen the latest _______? Everyone’s photos are upside down.

sadfishing                      trending                           craze                         divulge

答案

1. 阅读课文并回答问题。 

1. What are ‘dance challenges’ and ‘pillow dresses’ examples of?
They are examples of ‘crazes’ that can trend. 

2. What might people who overshare at parties be trying to do?
They might be trying to make a connection.

3. According to Dr Hand, what is the downside of sharing too many details?
The downside is that people don’t sympathise as much when things go wrong.

4. What happens when we share a lot of positive posts?
We can become more socially attractive.

5. What should we avoid doing with our love lives?
According to Gwendolyn Seidman, we should avoid showing off.

2. 选择意思恰当的单词或词组来完成下列句子。

1. It can be hard to make a strong connection with people at parties.

2. Stop flexing! Nobody needs to hear about your ‘amazing’ love life!

3. Ask your friends in real life if you want honest advice whether you overshare.

4. I’m about to tell you a secret. Do not divulge it to anyone.

5. Have you seen the latest craze? Everyone’s photos are upside down.